Life happens, which means dry spells happen, am I right? No biggie—unless that dry spell morphs into more of a, well, severe drought. Can't remember the last time you wanted to have sex with your husband or partner? Factors like stress, time, and kids can seriously zap your sex drive. That said, you shouldn't just give up on your sex life forever. These stories encompass some of the most common reasons why women lose their sex drives.
We did it a lot in the beginning, like six times a week. We were animals, and we loved every second of it. But about a year and a half into our marriage, I was seriously never in the mood to have sex. I had to pep talk myself into doing it once a week in order to make my partner think everything was okay.
I loved him fully and was super-attracted to him. It was a mood thing. He was always very supportive about this. He never made me feel bad about not being in the mood or anything like that. I ended up finding out I was feeling this way because of my birth control , and once the doctor took me off, I felt better and we started having a decent sex life again, doing it about two to three times a week. If your libido seems to go on a permanent vacation right after you start a new hormonal birth control method, talk to your doctor.
Imagine that! My husband is annoyed about this. Mine is based on rowdy young kids. This is an ongoing fight in our household, and it kind of sucks.
Being a mom means constantly tending to the needs and demands of others, and at some point, sex can feel like another demand, she says. That may help lift your sex drive. I still loved him and thought he was sexy. I just lost my sexual appetite. It was ultra-tough explaining this to him.
My boyfriend and I almost broke up because of this. He took it very personally and thought I was just over him and who he was. The doctor said I was probably feeling like this because of some stress I was experiencing in my job and with my family. She said there was nothing wrong with me, and that made me feel better. It definitely made him feel better, too. And, unfortunately, that can have a direct effect on your sex life. Maybe take a bubble bath surrounded by candles, or slip into some silky lingerie—all of that can help.
He says he will try new things. I love him. I want to spend the rest of my life with him. He has to deal with that. Instead of looking at it as the same old, same old, she recommends reminding yourself that this is something special that only you and your partner share.
That, and doing what you can to spice things up. Try taking a vacation together and having hotel sex, or working in some new positions.
I still loved my boyfriend, but maybe more in a friend kind of way? I told him the truth, and at first he was completely taken back and a little offended. We met each other in the middle, and now we have an open relationship, which I feel is modern and most people understand. If you find yourself suddenly not wanting sex, Durvasula recommends checking in with your doctor to make sure everything is okay on the health front. Things like depression, hormonal changes, and certain medications can all affect your libido, she points out.
If you still want to be close to them, hold their hand, kiss, and touch them, those are all great signs, she says. Type keyword s to search. Today's Top Stories. Related Story. Advertisement - Continue Reading Below. More From Relationships.